Self-Responsibility Starts With An I

“Take your life into your own hands and what happens?  A terrible thing: no one to blame.” —Erica Jong

In the following three scenarios what do the people have in common?

Josie is a woman in her twenties. She still lives at home with her mother who makes all Josie’s important decisions: how to spend her money, who to go out with, even what clothes to wear. Josie is anxious and depressed.

Matt ordered a new printer for his office. When it arrived he discovered it wasn’t compatible with his computer. “Those idiots,” he ranted, “why didn’t they tell me this was the wrong printer.”           

Sally and Jerry had a big fight. Now Sally’s tossing and turning in the bedroom while Jerry beds down on the sofa. Neither one is getting any sleep and both think the other should make the first move to apologize.

If your answer was “Hey, no one is taking any personal responsibility here,” you’ve got a good eye for human behavior.

Because what Josie and Matt and Sally and Jerry all have in common is a lack of self-responsibility that leaves them dependent, impotent and victimized.

They’re caught up in blaming others for their problems and waiting for somebody else to come along and make their life right.

Unfortunately, they’re going to have a long wait because, in the words of self-esteem expert Nathaniel Branden, “No one is coming.”

This is the good news. Your life is in your hands. You get to make the choices, select the options, and take the actions that come with self-duty.

It’s through the door of self-responsibility that personal power and independence enter, often hand-in-hand, bearing gifts of confidence and self-esteem.

Be clear though, self-responsibility is not the same as feeling responsible or accepting the blame for bad things that have happened or situations that are painful.

We don’t all enter the world with the same trappings, and people, events or circumstances have wreaked trauma and caused wounds from which many are recovering.

Self-responsibility means that when you have worked through your grief or anger or other issues, you can ask yourself:

Now what am I going to do? What options do I have?

At the other end, self-responsibility doesn’t mean becoming so self-reliant you don’t ask for help when you need it or seek others’ opinions or points of view.

Rather than a heavy burden, self-responsibility can be a source of joy. Knowing you can create the life you want by accepting responsibility for yourself is great freedom.

I want to invite you to take responsibility of your own life but self-responsibility certainly doesn’t mean you have to know everything, make every decision alone or take on the world single-handedly.

For over 25 years I have guided and coached hundreds of people to take self-responsibility, gain clarity on their inner voice and remove hidden roadblocks that stand in their way of success.

If you are ready to Be More, Do More, and Have More please visit our about page and learn how I can help you get there. Please take this opportunity to take responsibility for your own life! I look forward to hearing from you!

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